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smokedetector1 2 hours ago [-]
If you act like an inconsiderate asshole 50% of the time, then you’re an inconsiderate asshole, even if you follow basic social politeness the other 50% of the time. Seems like an overreaction to call holding the door open “very very nice.” Letting the door close in your face would have made him look obviously like an asshole in front of his friend.
BugsJustFindMe 2 hours ago [-]
Summary:
If you find yourself getting annoyed by someone being actively engaged in a space, then maybe you have the problem, not them, and maybe you should chill out.
smokedetector1 2 hours ago [-]
The blog says they were talking louder than everyone else in the room. Inconsiderate people always think others should just chill out
BugsJustFindMe 2 hours ago [-]
> The blog says they were talking louder than everyone else in the room.
That means very little. We have no indication whether they were truly being disruptive or whether this person was just being hypersensitive. The entire point of the post is recognizing that your personal feelings are not privileged truth. You know nothing outside of your own head.
smokedetector1 2 hours ago [-]
People should err on the side of minimizing disruption in quiet public spaces.
BugsJustFindMe 2 hours ago [-]
> People should err on the side of minimizing disruption in quiet public spaces.
I hope that if you read what I wrote again[0] you'll realize that's a non-sequitur.
[0] My mid-write edits might have clarified.
smokedetector1 2 hours ago [-]
I could be clearer. I’m saying that the fact that OP even noticed and was annoyed by it is evidence that facetime man is at fault, unless OP identifies as someone with a population-unusual hypersensitivity (eg autism, PTSD), which they didn’t.
BugsJustFindMe 2 hours ago [-]
That's not how fault works. At all. Ever. Noticing something and being annoyed is not evidence of anything other than your own emotions.
Here's a word substitution experiment to contemplate: Person A is angry because they noticed person B kissing person C openly in public. Which person is at fault? If you want, we can even say that the kiss was louder than anyone else's kiss, though what that means exactly in this scenario exists purely inside your head.
smokedetector1 1 hours ago [-]
Kissing != making noise. Maybe you need to consider paying more attention to how your actions affect others in public spaces
If you find yourself getting annoyed by someone being actively engaged in a space, then maybe you have the problem, not them, and maybe you should chill out.
That means very little. We have no indication whether they were truly being disruptive or whether this person was just being hypersensitive. The entire point of the post is recognizing that your personal feelings are not privileged truth. You know nothing outside of your own head.
I hope that if you read what I wrote again[0] you'll realize that's a non-sequitur.
[0] My mid-write edits might have clarified.
Here's a word substitution experiment to contemplate: Person A is angry because they noticed person B kissing person C openly in public. Which person is at fault? If you want, we can even say that the kiss was louder than anyone else's kiss, though what that means exactly in this scenario exists purely inside your head.